How many times do we have to fall before we learn to walk?

 We try and we fail, yet we try again because that's life. How many times do we have to fall before we learn to walk? We look ahead even when the road is full of obstacles. We keep looking into a person's eye when they raise their voices to us, we keep walking even when our feet hurt and when our body is weak because that's our nature, to just keep going !
How many of us have heard someone tell us "You don't have any value." "You should be dead" "You are good at nothing" , and how many of us are still here? Day after day, week after week...getting up, trying to find a meaning to this life and trying to make someone out of ourselves?
You see, life doesn't come with instructions and we all are just learning to live as we go, no one's better than anyone. A better degree doesn't make a person better than us, nor does it make someone less by not having any. A person's character is built through the choices they make in life, through the difficulties they face and how do they overcome them. 
Being a parent, or having a family is amazing but it does not make you a better person than the one who chooses not to have those things.
Being a parent is a choice, as it is a choice how to speak and treat your kid. Being a parent should be one of the best achievements of one's life (for those who dream of it), so why do some parents just speak ill of their children? Why do some parents tear down every hope or achievement of their kid? Being a parent is a life commitment, and I do forgive and accept that parents are humans and fail sometimes, but I don't accept nor understand the ones who consciously bully them, make them feel less or unworthy and still are capable of playing the victim card to others. 

That to me is bullshit! Some people are not made to be parents that's the reality and it pains me to see that most of the time kids/young adults suffer because of some choices their parents take. 
Having a family is more than having someone at home to make us dinner. Having a family should be about having people in our life who listen to us, who understand us, who try to help us and not people who insult us, speak ill of us, laugh at us and still see themselves as the rightful ones.
That's not having a family, that's having people who take advantage of you to make themselves feel better for the shitty life they have. 
I learned at young age what it was to be judged by the way you look and i learned that bullying has many forms yet the most painful is when it comes from a family member.  

We fall many times in this life but one thing we can not do is give up! No matter what! No matter whose words break us, whose stones come at us we got to keep on moving. Write, sing, study, paint or whatever it is that makes you happy you do it! You keep on going, head high and proud! 
How many times do we have to fall before we learn to walk? 

Too many and yet we do not give up, we do it, so as we grow up through the ups and downs of life, despite of the people who try to tear us apart we get up, we always get up and when we do we are better and stronger because life is always gonna be hard and most of the time the only person we can count on is ourselves. 

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